I'll start by saying it isn't that we are in a desperate financial situation or anything.
We've been married for 10 years. I always had a very stable good job until the pandemic. Then I lost my job and struggled to find another one.
I got a job at a stable good company and I was thrilled. Alas, it is an entry-level job in their call center. But you have to pay your dues (for at least a year) in this position before moving to a new department (potentially) within the company.
We both were extremely excited. I started 11 weeks ago with many other newbies. I have steadily lost all my confidence. It sounds rather easy, right? It isn't....for me. I am trying very hard (including bringing notes home) and it doesn't help. I'm still struggling so hard. I find it SO HARD to make sales. I get tongue tied. I still find a lot of the processes very confusing. My call times are too long. I'm always having to go to support for help. And what makes it worse is that the other newbies (all in their 20s) are whip-smart and much much much better than me. Faster, smarter. Make sales left right and centre.
I've asked for help. They've tried to give me some extra help. But at the end of the day, I just suck at it. And I'm still on probation so my anxiety is through the roof the whole time I am there. It feels like a sweatshop (I imagine). I'm tired all the time and I'm weepy.
I found other job options (that are hiring and I'm feeling very positive that I'll be able to snag one...I even went for an interview for one and was called back for a second interview). But my husband is adamant that I DO NOT QUIT THIS JOB. His reasoning is that this is the best company for me since I'm older now. It doesn't pay great money (none of my job options do now) but he says after I pay my dues (being there at least a year) I'll have a good chance of moving to an easier, better paying department. He just feels that it is such an amazing opportunity and he is upset that I'm considering "squandering it" for other job opportunities that aren't nearly as safe (they are smaller start ups).
When I was trying to reason with my husband (that my mental health is suffering at this job and I feel sick and depressed at the thought of doing this and sucking so badly for another year), he told me I'm a quitter. That I don't put in the effort when something is difficult.
I feel so hurt and betrayed. He's my partner and he's supposed to want to help me and be supportive. Instead it feels like I'm talking to a bully.
Does he have a point? Or is he being horrible? Of course I wouldn't quit without a new job, but I don't think that will be difficult. His main issue is that I'm lucky to be there and shouldn't even think of quitting just because I am finding it hard. Help.
tldr: I want to quit a very hard new job and husband is adamant that I "put my nose to the grindstone" and do what it takes to stay.
Submitted October 05, 2021 at 09:21PM by ThrowRASpecial-Pay2 https://ift.tt/3Dgh4Jg
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