So me & my bf have been dating for about 2 years. He’s really my best friend and I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I’m overall a very positive person, and he told me that’s one of the reasons why he fell in love with me. Before he met me, he was coming out of a 7 year long physically & emotionally abusive relationship that really affected him. He has always dealt with depression, but his self esteem plummeted during his time with her. He’s told me that I have basically kept him alive & that he loves me more than he loves himself. He hasn’t been diagnosed because he has this weird thing about going to therapy, but we both have concluded that he may be manic. He recently had an episode and we started seriously talking about him getting therapy. He always makes excuses about how now isn’t a good time financially (we live with my mom to pay off our debt) but I assured him that his health is a priority worth budgeting for. I told him this morning that my grandma tested positive for rona and could have possibly had a stroke and that my dad was upset about it because our family members exposed her when they knew they were sick. Instead of comforting me about my grandmother being sick, he calls my dad a hypocrite because when he had it a separate time, he wasn’t as careful as he should have been and could have put other people in danger too. He’s not wrong, but I didn’t tell him my grandmother was in the hospital to receive a response like that. This is how a lot of our conversations go. Nitpicking at other people’s faults or complaining about any and everything. I told him that he’s starting to get really negative again and he said that he knows, and that he has been purposely keeping his distance from me because he can tell it’s been bringing me down. I am an extremely patient person, and am willing to stick by him but I am mentally exhausted. We have argued before about how being right about something & pointing out logic has a time & a place, and that if it’s at the expense of other peoples feeling than it shouldn’t be said. He doesn’t really agree with that but I’m questioning if this is something I can deal with long term.
tl;dr my boyfriend suffers from depression and is very negative & it is mentally draining
Submitted August 23, 2021 at 06:23AM by Responsible_Rip_7518 https://ift.tt/3D4Vp7z
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