I(30M) am tired of having the same fight with my GF(30F) of 2y and have second thoughts about ending it.

My gf has a hard time processing her emotions. Her feelings are valid but When shes upset she retreats into herself. Many times, for the whole night and can drag through the weekend. I know it's not her intention but Im left feeling rejected and frustrated at what is a ruined time we could be spending bonding. I try to reconnect or talk it out but she denies anything is wrong and continues to sulk and doesn't reconnect with me. I get tired of being the one to have to do the chasing/reconnecting. she just can't snap herself out of it and stays in that negative mindset. We eventually do reconnect but way after we already feel hurt with this whole ordeal.

We have tried to work this out now for 2.5 years and while things have gotten a lot better we are still having the same type of fights. I'm not perfect and I know I need to improve as a BF. I need to improve my level of consideration and communication skills But these behaviors prevent us from just talking it out and finding a solution that works for both of us and growing past it. I've lost all my patience, feel hurt and resentful and don't have the energy to reconnect. She wants to keep trying. I want to end things but am also afraid of losing all we have built and a potential future together.

I feel she just needs time to develop as a person before being able to be in a mature relationship.

Tl;dr : my gf of 2.5y retreats into herself for hours to days when she's upset leaving me feeling rejected. I want to break things off but have second thoughts.

Submitted August 03, 2021 at 02:09PM by elcapitan115 https://ift.tt/3luOH4g