TLDR: My live apart boyfriend of 18 months has shown aggression is that ok to break up over message?
So anyone who’s read my other posts (some of them I’ve removed). Will know I’ve (32/F) been struggling with my relationship with this man since we first started dating 18 months ago.
He lived with me for about 4 months but I kicked him out for being bad with money and gambling too.
We share a special bond that’s really affectionate, playful and loving. He likes to help me out with chores I hate doing and although he’s annoyingly irresponsible with money he will always pay me right back when borrowing.
To the point - Friday night we were out for drinks and my ex and his boyfriend showed up. My ex is out and proud and current boyfriend has never had an issue with the friendship. A really good song came on at the bar and I ran onto the dance floor, my ex followed and we danced together (playfully - not handsy at all). I could feel my boyfriends angry eyes burning onto me so I danced over to him. My ex came over too and told my boyfriend he should dance with me. My ex then went home and left me and my boyfriend with some new friends we’d met.
Well he had anger in his eyes like I’ve never seen. He began to shout about me dancing with my ex and how I ruined the whole night and how terrible I made him feel. I was apologetic and gestured for us to finish our drinks and talk at home. My boyfriend then grabbed my arm as if to force me into a hug but I pulled back - which made him grip harder and pull me more while still shouting at me.
I shouted back “let me go!” And a couple of guys in the friend group came and pulled him away. He was kicked out of the bar.
I went home not that much after and one of the guys in the group shared an Uber and said he’d make sure I was safe before he continued. This guy is my ex’s friend and I felt trust.
When we got upstairs to my apartment my boyfriend was passed out on my doorstep. I tried to get into my house but he’d snapped the door handle so even locked I couldn’t get in (there is only one way in). We woke him and he saw red and started shouting at the friend. Then at me - “f@@k you you piece of shit” we’re his repeated words. He said he felt like he was made out to be a monster and he’d never hurt me.
The friend called the police who took my boyfriend away while he kept hurling mean words at me. I had to stay at my ex’s as he was closest to family I have here. My boyfriend messaged the next day saying I was the worst for dancing with my ex and then making him look like an abuser. I had to pay to fix my door.
I’ve met up with my boyfriend to breakup in the past a couple of times and I always stupidly get manipulated into not going ahead with it. I’m still upset with him and I don’t see a happy future no matter how much I love him …
Can I break up over message?? He has nothing left at my house so it’s a clean, safe break. But also super cold for a guy I’ve spent the best part of two years with…
Submitted August 01, 2021 at 09:28PM by LifeWithBaxter https://ift.tt/37bOrig
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