I (30/M) do not know where to approach severe parenting differences with my parents in their mid 60s.

Without getting too far into things, my parents have both expressly told me that my husband and I should never be fathers. We will both be 30 this year, and we have been together for seven years and married for four. We can't have biological kids considering we're both men, but even if we could, I don't want to pass on my poor genetics. We have a litany of health issues in my family as well as mental health issues.

I've been told I shouldn't be a father. That my mental health issues are beyond that which I should subject an innocent child. Yet there was never any concern about that from my own parents.

We do not have kids. We are about a year out from beginning the fostering process. I just cannot figure out how to begin resolving this issue and repairing this relationship, or if this is my sign that I should finally cut ties. My brother and I were abused significantly during our childhood and teenage years. The best thing that ever happened to me was moving out at age 23 for good, with pennies in my pocket.

Ever since then, our relationship has improved to a degree. But these condescending comments still happen more than they should. I'm exhausted, and I really need some advice.

tl;dr: 30 year old feuding with abusive/enabling parents on parenting matters.

Submitted April 06, 2021 at 08:32PM by Slobrodan_Mibrosevic https://ift.tt/3utglzN