Okay so a few weeks ago this girl (20s? Idk how old she is) from my work asked me (21m) for my number. I had never talked to her before or even seen her (I fix the equipment people need to work so I don't know most of the workers, she needed something repaired that day) we talked for maybe 5 minutes while I fixed her equipment and at the end of the conversation she asked me for my number. I thought she was nice and pretty cute so I gave it to her, I thought getting to know her could be really nice.
Yeah, it wasn't really. She wanted to meet up immediately and would not stop texting me. I tried to slow everything down, I haven't agreed to meet her yet, I always waited sometime to reply and didn't text much. She didn't seem to get it so I directly told her that we should maybe slow it down which didn't change anything aswell. She also got very fast into very very personal stuff. I know basically everything about her mental health and her friends and just complete life while she just knows my name and the city I live in.
Overall everything is way too much for me. I need my time with people and all of this is freaking me the fuck out but I hate confrontation (yeah I'm working on that one) so I just kind of went along and was still texting her back(but like slow and for like 5 texts she sent I sent one back).
Well this morning was the last straw for me: I woke up at 5am cause my phone was nonstop vibrating; she sent me 14(FOURTEEN!) fucking texts about idk some depressive episode she was having and then asked to meet up tomorrow. I can't deal with this, I mean I'm sorry she isn't feeling well but I'm just some dude she barely knows and talked to exactly one time in real life, I'm not the right person to talk to about this.
I don't have even any resemblance of interest to keep texting her. I don't wanna ghost her or just block her number cause I hate when someone does that to me so I won't do that but I also know I have to be blunt as fuck or she won't back off but at the same time she's already feeling like shit so I don't want to make it worse.
So I've been thinking about sending her the following: "Hey I am sorry that you aren't feeling well but, and I mean this in the nicest way possible, you gotta chill. Honestly you just sent me 14 texts that's way to much, you're freaking me out. No I don't want to meet you tomorrow and if I'm honest I don't want to meet you at all or continue texting you. You're nice but all of this is way too much. I'm sorry."
Do you think that's to rude? She's really nice but she obviously has problems I can't and don't want to deal with. I really don't want to hurt her too much but it's just freaking me out.
Sorry this got way longer than I expected, thank you to everyone who read all of this.
TL;DR: This girl has been nonstop texting me and it's freaking me out. Is the text I want to send her too rude? I don't want to hurt her.
Submitted December 01, 2020 at 02:53AM by idontevenknowww1 https://ift.tt/3mm5NPr
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