We work on separate floors of our house, but I swear being at home is revealing just how much I find him annoying when I’m trying to work. I can hear him talking to himself throughout the day or yelling at the dog when she makes noise, and he will randomly come upstairs and just tell me about something unimportant of his work and it’s so aggravating.
I’m trying to be understanding and not the asshole because I know he means well and is not intentionally trying to be a bother.
I also feel bad because I will take very short breaks where I just read an article on my phone or stretch or grab coffee, so I guess he thinks I’m “free” to be talked to during those periods when really I just want to use that time to be in my own head instead of constantly having to be “on” during the work day or having to listen to his stupid stories or problems.
I like that he feels he can talk to me, but it’s really a huge annoyance for me. I don’t want to sound like a total asshole to him.
I have asked him to not talk to me during the work day before but I guess he’s forgotten by now. He requires a lot of mental stimulation and talking through things in detail whereas I’m the opposite. If I ask him to act how I need him to, then that’s not fair for him either.
Tl;dr My husband has good intentions in talking to me throughout the day while we’re working but it’s conflicting with my nature of needing quiet to concentrate. How do I balance accommodating both his needs and mine?
Submitted December 23, 2020 at 11:19AM by expertocrede20 https://ift.tt/2WFSTRh
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