[UPDATE] I [27M] just ruined my relationship with my boss [41M] who I really admire. Can this be fixed?

Hey yall. Heres the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/f6m59n/i_27m_just_ruined_a_friendship_with_my_boss_41m/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

I got some responses so I figured I'd share what happened this week because it's just as crazy at the start of the story.

The day after my boss chewed me out over text, he avoided me in the office. Refused to speak to me and left every room I walked into. We had a brief, work-only related conversation about taking over my project. Then he left for the day So I waited. Because he left something when he rushed out that I knew hed be back to get.

Finally I return and he awkwardly asks "how I'm doing" and I say not great because hes really mad at me.

And then it begins. He tells me he isnt mad at me but he feels taken advantage of. Launches into this entire story about giving me so many opportunities, how I used to be great and a great member of the office. But ever since October when we received significant evidence of employee safety concerns (employees neither of us oversee), I have been checked out. He said everyone noticed I was coming in late (I refuted him that I had ever left early so he dropped it). He said our relationship had changed. He said my relationship with my coworkers had changed. He said to be underperforming in this way, and then to leave was a slap in his face.

I want to be very clear, this is the first time he has told me any of this. No one, not my boss, not my coworkers ever told me my commuter hours were a problem. I asked for these hours in my interview and was specifically told "we dont care when you're in the office, just that you get the work done".

I told my boss I'd completed several significant projects since October, including a company record breaking campaign, were they not good enough? He told me isnt wasnt about the work quality, it was about how painful it seemed for me to get them done.

So I was honest and told him I felt like a chump and I was mortified by this news. I wasnt trying to be malicious with my hours, I just assumed if they were an issue, someone would talk to me about it. Instead, it seems hes gone to my coworkers to complain...

Finally I asked, if I hadnt got this job, were you ever going to tell me you thought I'd lost passion for the work? He said he was just waiting for the "good employee button to switch back on and he didnt want to have a hard conversation. He told me he still loves me as a person and is happy to write me a good recommendation if I ever need one. And then we both went home.

Today, was still my last day. And everything was immediately back to normal. He and I were still buddy buddy all day. At my goodbye lunch he pulls me aside and tells me HES QUITTING because hes tired of it all, hates the company, hates working here.

He tells me he accepted a new (fucking awesomely paid) offer this morning and hes going to be leaving in april. He bought me a gift. And when I left for the final time, hugged me, gave a toast, hugged me again and then in the car he texted me thanking me for all I've done.

I'm left feeling...really weird? I'm not sure I learned a lesson here. Or if my boss and I are still friends. I feel shitty still though? Like I've been fired? Any idea of what I should do?

Tl:dr My boss who flipped out on my when I quit spent an entire workday ignoring me, when I finally cornered him we had a heartfelt conversation about my months long work decline that he refused to tell me about, and then spent my last day giving me a bunch of praises. not sure where we stand or what's going on.

Submitted February 21, 2020 at 07:19PM by throwawayalltoday111 https://ift.tt/39VScYt