So I'm in medical school, and I'm doing really well. I'm in the top 10% of my class, I'm doing research, and I'm shooting for a surgical residency. When I have a little bit of down time, I like to read and play video games to unwind from the stress of school.
My husband doesn't like that I play video games and he gets really moody and in my face whenever he notices me playing.
In my defense, I do 90% of the cooking and cleaning in our home despite having to do so much for school. I also don't use social media (I don't have instagram or facebook) or watch TV, so my only real "guilty pleasures" are reading and video games. The only other thing I take time out of my day to do is spend time with my husband, family, or friends and work out. I only really play one game (Breath of the Wild) and I would estimate that on average, I play about two hours per week. In contrast, I read easily an hour or more per day, but this does not seem to bother him. Neither does my studying or working out bother him. I also have two good friends and I am close with my family, but I see them about once or twice a month due to the demands of school. I reserve an evening per week to have date night with my husband, and I'm home most of the time anyway so we spend lots of time together. I'm pretty introverted and he is my favorite person, so I often just seek him out to spend time with, so I don't think he doesn't like me playing video games because it takes time from him.
I tried to talk to him about why he gets so snappy and rude with me when I'm playing my game, and he said, "Because it's a waste of time." But I don't think that's fair, because it isn't like I'm neglecting him, my fitness/health, or my daily activities in favor of games. I also work really hard at school and research, as well as at home, and I guess I feel entitled to a couple of hours a week to do something essentially mindless.
My question is, is there something about this situation that I am missing? Am I doing something wrong here? I guess I just don't see the issue with "wasting" a little bit of time, but if there is some aspect to this that I am not seeing, I would like to know so that I can approach him differently about it.
tl;dr: Husband doesn't like when I play video games. I feel like I play a reasonable amount. I feel like I must be missing something about why it bothers him.
Submitted February 10, 2020 at 08:30PM by AloneGarlic https://ift.tt/2tLyUpe
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