I (21F) want to apologize to an old friend (21F) about the offensive jokes I made to her in high school

As a teen I used to be very insensitive and I made terrible racist jokes to my black friend. I never said the n word or anything, but I would make jokes that made fun of her race and I know now that must have made her feel very ostracized. She never said that they made her uncomfortable but looking back I don’t know how they couldn’t have. I have no excuse other than I was insensitive and stupid and I liked the attention I got from making the jokes. I regret this more than words can say and I’m horrified at the things I said. We grew up in a very rural area with few people of color, which likely made it it worse because she already felt out of place.

She moved our junior year of high school. I’ve seen her a few times since then and we’ve always been friendly and nothing has ever been weird. She posts a lot now on social media about how she felt out of place because of how few black people were around her in her daily life, let alone representation in the media. I know that I made this worse with the jokes that I made.

I want to apologize to her for these things. I no longer have her number so this would have to over social media. She recently shared an article that she wrote for her school newspaper that’s about how she felt out of place in our nearly all white high school. I was going to direct message the article to her, tell her that I love it, and then go into how sorry I am about the stuff I said.

Is this a good idea? I would appreciate any tips. I know that the jokes were terribly wrong and I just want to apologize for it.

TLDR ; As a teenager I used to make a lot of racist jokes to one of my friends, I want to know how I should apologize for it.

Submitted February 19, 2020 at 06:04PM by okiedokiedude https://ift.tt/2wsfuqm