My husband 29 giving me 31/f ultimatum & I am not taking things well. Quick context - the entire issue revolves around how horrible our sex life is. I have a 1 1/2 toddler that I mostly take care of, I do all the house chores (cleaning, laundry, cooking), I try to regularly go to the gym now bc he says I’m overweight (5’3 150 lbs), and with a full time job. He too works, pays rent, my car insurance, and occasionally the grocery. He also sometimes takes me out usually after a lot of “nagging.” He occasionally does diapers and often helps bathe our baby due to my hand eczema. That sums up how we work as partners and parents.
He has expressed disappointment in our sex life often bc it’s not as passionate as it used to be. My excuse is that I’m tired after everything, that I do much of the work since he gradually stopped doing half the chores, and also that his change in behavior has made me less warm. He has temper issues and has done and said lots of things that have scarred me and I still carry it with me so I don’t look at him the same way. Those things range from slapping me, cussing, yelling, telling me I’m fat, that I’m not worth investing in when it comes to buying our own home (we live in his moms house).
Im not perfect, I have flaws too ranging from nagging, clingy, and used to have major trust issues.
I still love him and do not wish to part ways. I recognize that I am dependent on his love and affection and find it impossible to let go or leave. But he has told me that I need to learn how to get better in bed otherwise divorce. So I asked him what he was going to do to improve. I requested he help more with chores so I’m less tired, to respect me more, and to get out of my MIL house. He said that he doesn’t need to give me anything else and that I have a lot to lose so I should t ask. He also said that he doesn’t think I’ll improve so he won’t buy a house, I would have to buy it.
This all makes him sound terrible I think? I don’t know. I question my sanity. Am I the crazy one and he’s asking for reasonable things? Perhaps I have failed as a wife, as a woman?
TL;DR husband gave me ultimatum to improve our sex life otherwise divorce. I asked for tho ya too but he said he doesn’t need to change that it’s just me. I’m taking it badly and not sure what to do.
Submitted February 01, 2020 at 07:42PM by LifePipe0 https://ift.tt/2vJkdnl
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