This isn't really just a question for me, but more of a larger, philosophical question about dating and finding a partner in modern day.
I'm 30F and I always grew up thinking that I'd find a partner, settle down, and get married. Hasn't happened yet (whatever!)
But, thanks to dating apps, I HAVE noticed that for me and the people I date, there's always this looming possibly that the person sitting across the table from you isn't good enough... Isn't hot enough, smart enough, committed enough, funny enough, compatible enough, etc. Not like these thoughts explicitly go through my/their mind, but I'll get a few months or even a year or two into a relationship and feel like something is off.
So is this a contentment issue? How do you know the difference between someone actually not being compatible and you just having issues settling down? What's the difference between settling and settling down? Does "There's Always Something Better Out There" Syndrome (TASBOTS) exist? How do I combat it in myself and weed out people who have it?
Since I know someone is going to suggest this: yes, I do go to therapy. I also have a great job, a ton of hobbies and friends, and am overall pretty confident but I think dating can be tough out there for everyone.
TL;DR I (30F) have started to suspect that the reason I've had trouble finding someone is TASBOTS and I'm wondering how to know if this is the case, or if it is that I just haven't met the right person. If it's TASBOTS, I'd like to know how to knock it off and give the people I'm dating a fair shot I also would really like to know how to spot someone with TASBOTS and how to weed them out of the dating pool.
Thanks!
Submitted February 21, 2020 at 06:15AM by throwRAasking4advice https://ift.tt/2PeL7dH
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