Very good friend [F22] of mine [M22] claims she gets insecure when my responses are not within 'a timely manner'?

We have been very good friends since 4-5 years now. We speak on a daily basis and we share everything. Both of us early 20s. Currently living far away from each other since we are studying at Unis, but we meet in person when we go back to our hometowns once in a while. That means most of our contact is through phone (texts/voice texts/phone calls).

She is on the phone a lot more than me however so she responds faster most of the time. I always respond too, maybe a bit late occasionally, but it rarely happens.

And whenever I do respond a tad late it bothers her a lot. She sometimes deletes voice messages that she has sent and I haven't read yet, and yesterday she said she gets insecure when I give her a late response? And by late I mean even 3 hours is late for her. She has mentioned in the past aswell a few times. I have her in silenced mode but that is simply because we speak a lot and I don't want my phone to be ringing every 10 minutes. I still check our chat.

What should I do? I don't know why it bothers her as much but honestly it gives unnecessary pressure to me. It feels like we are both 15. It's been happening for a while now and it actually worries me that it gives her 'anxiety' and 'insecurity'. Two words she has used, especially the latter.

TL;DR Very good friend [F22] of mine [M22] claims she gets insecure when my responses are not within 'a timely manner'? What can I do so she overcome this? I am not sure if I am in the wrong.

Submitted December 26, 2021 at 03:34AM by Ok_Assignment3050 https://ift.tt/3z0LhuT