My(M29) GF(F26) wants me to stick up for her, with part of my friend-group not answering her birthday invitation.

So I(M29) with my gf(F26) together for about a year, met friends and family and happy together.

I have a close group of friends in our local town (about 8) that i have frequent contact with.

She has trouble making/keeping friends and has one close friend that she's very good with.

When we met I introduced her to my local friends and tried to make her feel included. She is well recieved and we hang all out together weekly/bi-weekly and she is invited to our WhatsApp-GroupChat.

Now she asked me if she can celebrate her birthday at my place (more space) and if she should invite "my" friends too. I said it's a good idea and she invited them in our group chat. (Two weeks until the party)

After a few hours nobody replied (working time) and she already got frustrated and insecure. I said she should be patient and give them a few hours to check their schedule's and reply. She wasnt too happy with that.

Later that day about half of them said that they would join us while the others stayed silent. These still didnt reply two days later. She asked me if I had any updates, which I didn't and said she could ask them again one week before the party so she could plan.

Now she's mad at me for not sticking up for her and minimizing the issue. She feels like an ass and thinks it's very rude too not answer to an invitation. If they don't reply they are dead to her.

We haven't met in person yet and could not really talk about it yet. We are planning to do so today. (Edit: me and GF. Not Me and friends.)

I get that it's hurtful when you make yourself vulnerable and don't get validation, but I think she is burning bridges too fast and should give them more time. I'm just kind of lost because I dont know how to navigate the situation. Any advice would be wonderful :)

TL;DR: Gf is hurt and frustrated that half my friends didn't answer her invitation after two days (still 8 days until the party) and wants me to stick up for her. Dont know what to do.

Submitted August 04, 2021 at 05:58AM by _ra91 https://ift.tt/3rU43An