Sorry for the formatting I’m on mobile. My gf knows my Reddit account so this is a throwaway
My gf and I have been together for 3 years. In the past 3 years, she has been trying to find herself, find a career path etc while being depressed. I have tried to support her to the best of my ability, encouraging her to go to therapy (she recently started to go back) and never judged her for taking time for her mental health. She dropped out of college, had a job for a while but dropped that too. Meanwhile, I graduated from college the month before we started dating, landed my dream job, I pursued my master while working full time and completed it in a year. I still took care of the house and everything because she couldn’t because of depression. Recently, she told me she felt better and was going to look for a job. That’s good, I told her if she needs help she can ask. She hasn’t done anything for 2 weeks now so I’m losing hope.
Here is the thing, I work from home. She tries to come see me quite often, I made it clear that if I’m not even paying attention to her, I’m way too focus and to please not break that focus (I code a lot, I can easily lose my train of thoughts if someone come and talk to me).
Usually during my lunch break I hang out with her. Today I was exhausted (we had been traveling all weekend), I wanted to go lay in bed and just cuddle and relax for my break. We started fooling around and she tried to slightly slap me as a joke. I stopped her and told her to not slap me (I don’t think it’s funny)
She got mad and left the room. I gave her time to cool off and went to talk to her.
She said she was mad because she wanted to spend time with me and she doesn’t consider laying in bed and cuddling is hanging out together. I told her I hang out with her everyday and sometimes I need to chill. (probably happened 4 times in a year that I was that exhausted and just needed to chill in bed. She knows I used to go lay in my car when I used to go to office when I was that exhausted) She is mad because I’m at home all day long and she can’t see me because I’m working. Also, tonight I’m driving 2 hours to see my best friend for her birthday, so I wanted to rest. She is invited but doesn’t want to come. She complained that I rather spend my energy on seeing my friend than being with her. I’ve seen my best friend only 3/4 times for the past year because of both of our jobs.
Im not sure what to do at this point, I’m not going to go back to office just because she is not working. I’m tired of commuting and I have the privilege of working from home, it’s not fair from her to remove that from me. Am I selfish, am I being an asshole?
TDLR: gf is mad she can’t spend all her time with me while I’m working from home, she thinks I’m not making her feel special
Submitted August 02, 2021 at 11:36AM by poliu1998 https://ift.tt/3A6Zs0J
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