At the end of my tether with my (F28) friendship with my best friend (F26), after I visited her this weekend

This weekend I travelled 3 hours by plane to visit my best friend who moved abroad.

My best friend has ADHD and depression which sometimes has caused some communication problems (in her words), but this after this weekend I’m really starting to reach my limit on what I can be a pushover with, regardless of anything like ADHD or depression.

We planned to do a lot this weekend which I was really looking forward to. We got tickets for a concert in the Saturday afternoon.

My friend picks me up on Friday and we go for a drink. We finish around midnight and then my friend goes back to her boyfriend’s place and I go to my Airbnb. As we had a lot planned for tomorrow, I hoped to get a great sleep.

I wake up at 8am to a text from my friend saying she can’t sleep because her and her boyfriend stayed up drinking bourbon until 5 then had an argument. She says it’ll be more likely 3pm when we meet because she needs to sleep now.

I’m disappointed but ok, we can meet later and go straight to the concert we booked at 4pm.

At 3pm she texts me and says that she is feeling anxious and doesn’t want to go to the concert anymore. Luckily the tickets are free. We end up instead going to H and M where I help her pick out a dress. She then says she needs to sleep more and suggests we meet up in time for dinner.

I’m a bit disappointed. I’ve travelled for 3 hours to basically go to an H and M and evening is approaching.

We meet up in the evening and get dinner and a drink, which is great until my friend and her boyfriend start arguing because they keep interrupting each other. She also doesn’t really let the boyfriend speak because he keeps saying the wrong thing apparently. This gets worse as the night goes on. The night on the whole was nice, but the bickering between the two of them was really annoying.

Anyway, I’m disappointed with this. I’m worried for my friend. She seems to not have much direction and spends so much time drinking and doesn’t really seem to understand her effects on others.

She’s always been a bit difficult to hold to a plan, but this time it’s really showing and was much more unpleasant than i thought it would be. Usually I don’t go home wanting to cry.

TL;DR worried about my friendship and her mental health after a stressful weekend.

Submitted August 23, 2021 at 02:24AM by coolnacho1994 https://ift.tt/3DbMb9y