My (28m) gf(28f) of 8 long years just said it’s not possible to see herself romantically involved in this relationship anymore. Even as recent as Dec 2019, she had expressed her desire to see this relationship to continue as she loves me very much and also would get married. I’m just confused at this sudden change within a year. She first told me the news after she witnessed her married friend couple fighting, she said she could relate to what had happened between and doesn’t want the same to happen.
A little bit of background: My gf has lot of issues(abusive father, sexual molestation) from childhood which was untreated. I was very much aware of these issues right from beginning and was very understanding in terms of emotional and erratic mood swings she shows.
Halfway, she moved to another country for education, and all these issues pushed her feeling lonely and depressed. Back then, there was a phase where I was mentally abusive to her and she found else somebody to share all her grief and cheated on me. She told me about it and I was shattered. She eventually realised the mistake she had done and came back to me. By this time, we both had grown up mentally and I, as a person corrected my mistakes and understood why cheated on me and I let it go given her issues. After that, it was a wonderful time for both of us as it was, until last year.
Apart from the reason that she does not love me anymore, she says I am inadequate to handle her emotional baggage going forward and there are things that are incomplete in me for her to feel good. She did not want to tell any of these things at first as it would hurt me, but I could tell from behaviour that something was amiss and forced her to tell. She was so confused that she wanted me in her life and at the same time No. Realising it’s high time she needed professional help, she started seeing a therapist and by second session, the therapist apparently encouraged to end the relationship?? (Do they do that?).
Anyway, we were a couple who dreamed a lot about what we should do together in life and also made lot of good memories. I mean, we enjoyed each other’s company a lot! Now she’s saying it’s a mistake that has happened and all those things are a lie! The letters she wrote has no meaning now. She is ok to continue as a friend , but I cannot see her that way and have decided to end it all.
After all these years, giving my best and being there for her ,you finally come to know it was all a Lie! it’s really difficult when you do not find the right closure.
TL;DR: after 8 years of being together , me and my gf broke up due to lack to love and me being inadequate in the relationship
Submitted April 06, 2021 at 03:44AM by windowgaz3r https://ift.tt/3sXmHqW
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