My mom separated from my dad ~4 years ago for financial reasons. It happened as soon as I graduated high school, when it happened I got really depressed, moved into my own apartment ASAP because I didn’t want to choose between them and sort of just had a multi-year depressive episode.
I’ve reconnected with my family a good bit over the past year and a half, just in time as I prepare to move to another state (for girlfriend and school/job opportunities).
When I told my dad I plan on moving he adamantly protested for a long time and has since confessed to me he feels like he’s losing me and can’t reconnect with anyone in our family. Admittedly things are very broken and difficult to fix as I have an older brother who doesn’t speak to us and my teenage sister lives with my mom.
He doesn’t have a car and the house he lives in (my home growing up) is very broken down. I try to help him fix it up when I can but it’s hard to make time while dealing with school and work. He’s depressed and tells me he misses everyone.
I desperately want to help him but I don’t know how and everytime I see him it’s like he’s constantly looking to me for solutions like I’m supposed to put my future on hold and move in with him all while apologizing to me for being such a horrible father to me growing up. He wasn’t a bad father at all, and I tell him that I don’t resent him but it’s like he doesn’t believe me.
I always feel like I haven’t done enough to help him, especially after being depressed and distant for so long, but at a certain point, what am I supposed to do? Am I a bad son? I just want things to improve for him.
TL;DR: my dad is depressed bc he can’t reconnect with our family after my mom divorced him, he’s a good dad but he expects me to put my future on hold to live with him and I feel like a bad son and don’t know how to help him or what to do
Submitted April 06, 2021 at 04:06PM by Mr_Salami https://ift.tt/31UnFbr
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