(UPDATE) my (19f) fiancé (21m) has been in a secret relationship behind my back. we are having our baby in 3 weeks
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Hi everyone! I promised that I would update so here it is. I gave birth to the most beautiful baby boy ever. I unexpectedly went into the quickest labor ever and gave birth to him with my grandmother by my side. I let his father know that I was in labor and he didn’t show up because he was busy. He met our son on MLK day and hasn’t been back since. I filed for child support the day after our son was born. We’ve taken care of the paternity test, the income worksheet and our court date is in December. He will have 11 months of back pay.
I am doing very good! I am mentally, emotionally and physically doing well. I am working, in school and I’m almost to 10 months of breastfeeding! Our son is healthy, smart and has such a good personality. He is crawling, he says a lot of words, he’s eating big boy food and he sure does love his mama. I spend everyday with him and on the days I work, my shift is 4-9 so I get to come home and spend a little bit of time with him before he goes to bed (way later than he should on those nights)
As for the situation with his father.. He is still in a relationship with the girl, she tries to pick fights with me a lot, stalks my social media and continuously tries to taunt me. I’m not gonna lie, I had some petty moments at the beginning of the year, I let it all get to my head and I wish I wouldn’t have engaged with her nonsense. Like I said, I don’t engage in it now and I’m proud of myself for that. I wanted my son to have his father in his life, I went back and forth between whether or not that needed to happen given the circumstances.
Things between his dad and I have not gotten any better. I have invited his father to come visit him multiple times and he has a million excuses as to why he can’t. He hasn’t had enough money for gas, I offer to give him gas money. He doesn’t want to drive all the way... I offer to meet him halfway. The list of excuses go on and on. I have tried my hardest to make it possible for us to coparent but he makes it impossible. He lies and says that I won’t let him see our baby, says that he doesn’t come visit because I kicked him out the one time he came.. (he wouldn’t stay off of his phone so I told him that he could either stay off the phone and give our son his full attention or he could leave. he chose to stay.) The lies are outrageous and his girlfriend believes every single one that he tells. Him and I haven’t spoke in a few months and honestly, it feels good.
I’ve realized that I can’t go out of my way to try make something happen that clearly won’t happen. I have handled everything very well on my own, my friends and family are very proud of me and most importantly I am SO proud of myself! I didn’t think I could do it on my own, I didn’t think I could overcome my PPD, I didn’t think I could do anything that I have accomplished because I thought that I would never be able to let go of what happened. I’ve realized that it happened for a reason. I can’t picture him and I raising our son together, I don’t see our son as his child, he is mine.
I love my son so much and I wish all of you could see him because he is PERFECT!!! I could go on and on about him. I think back to how I was feeling when I was typing out my original post and I am so damn happy to see where I am today. I have done so much to make sure my son has everything he could ever want or need. He has way too many clothes and let me tell y’all right now.. That boy is always looking cute in his outfits. I recently got myself a new car, and as I previously mentioned before, in school and the new job.
I have a lawyer for court, I’ve made sure that I have kept my behavior in check, I have all the documentation and “evidence” that would possibly be brought up if we ever had to go to court for custody etc. I can’t thank you all enough for all of your supportive comments, over the year I have gone back and read some of them just to take notes and see the positive comments that told me I would make it. I hope you all are proud of me and I’m so excited for you guys to see this!!! If you have any questions feel free to ask, I had so much to say in this post but no idea what all exactly to include. Also... I’m sure the formatting of this post is all messed up and I’m sorry!
tldr; I did it!!!!
Submitted November 03, 2020 at 12:52AM by scorpioassbitch https://ift.tt/2TLEYHQ
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