Bf [M33] want to quit college in his 3d year. It will leave us in financial trouble when he does. Help.

Me [F28] and him [M33] have been together for 2,5 years and live together. We both started college a tad later in life than most people do.

For the past year and a half (so also pre-corona and online lessons) my bf has had serious doubts about his degree and has resorted to basically not doing...well, anything. At all. We get goverment funding to go to college in our country, so he's basically been living off of that ever since he decided not to follow any lessons or hand in any material to pass classes. He's pretty much did a full 180 from the outgoing, active and happy man I met at first and he's turned into a very unattractive lazy sack of potatoes that sits behind his computer in his bathrobe all day.

Back in August he decided to give school a try again, only to figure out that it was all too much for him to handle and now he wants to quit indefinitely. If he stops, not only will it ruin his future prospects, but it also means that government funding stops. Right now we split everything 50/50, but everything financially will fall onto my shoulders if he doesn't find a decent paying job before Febuary. Finding a decent paying job without a degree in these covid-19 times is basically praying for a miracle. I really don't want to have to dig into my personal savings just so he can 'catch a break' that I personally don't believe he is (no longer) entitled to. He's 33, already had a year long break and really doesn't seem to grasp just how priviledged he is for being able to go to college without getting into ridiculous financial trouble.

I don't really know what to do anymore. I'm not his mum and the last thing I want is to force him into continuing an education that is making him miserable, but on the other hand I'm rather terrified of the consequences that it'll have on the life we currently share together. If anyone got any advice. Please share.

p.s. I know this post probably paints him in a very bad light. Please remember that people are more complicated than their issues. He's dealt with episodes of depression in the past and he has self-esteem issues that put up big boundaries in places that would seem small and insignificant to an outsider.

tl;dr boyfriend wants to quit college that will leave us with severe financial troubles when he does. What do I do?

Submitted November 29, 2020 at 06:44AM by YourWaifuNextDoor https://ift.tt/3mk8RM4