Some background: My (34f) daughter Audrey is 9 months old. My husband (36m) and I love the name. It also happens to be the name of my beloved aunty (dad's sister). When we announced the name to my parents (67m and 66f), my mum became visibly uncomfortable and asked why we had to use a name that was already "taken" in the family. My aunty Audrey, along with the rest of my dad's family, live overseas. My parents are not in regular contact with them. Although it's never been obvious that my mum dislikes my dad's family, it's clear that she thinks that maintaining a close relationship with them is not important. My husband and I, however, have built a good relationship with my aunty Audrey and the rest of dad's family over the years through visits and regular communication. They are all wonderful people. I suspect my mum's reaction came from a place of jealousy or embarassment over us choosing to honour my paternal aunty in this way, instead of her or one of her sisters. My aunty Audrey is thrilled that we have chosen to name our daughter after her.
The issue now is that my parents are refusing to call my daughter Audrey by her first name. Dad is indifferent to the whole issue but always goes along with what mum wants to do. Initially they declared that they would address her by her middle name, which I told them was unacceptable. They have since been referring to her as "baby" or "little girl", which I find very disrespectful and awkward. I have asked them multiple times to use her name Audrey. I really thought they would have gotten over it by now, but they are still refusing to use her name. We don't have a lot of contact with them anyway and the next step may be no contact but do you all have any other suggestions? Thanks.
Tl;dr - my parents are refusing to address my baby daughter Audrey by her given name. She's named after my aunty, which has seemed to offend my mum.
Submitted November 22, 2020 at 07:03PM by saltpeppermayonnaise https://ift.tt/33bQaTj
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