Unwanted thoughts to orgasm; What are positive thoughts?

I (F 34) have heard women need fantasy to orgasm. If I imagine what it has felt like for my husband (M 34) when he had sex with someone else, I can orgasm. every. single. time. Specifically, someone he slept with when we were on a break and what it felt like for the female to have sex with him. Not hot girls, girls you don't want to touch with a 10-foot pole and he regrets ever meeting. I want sex to be bonding between the two of us and not feel like he's having these great feelings with someone else. What else can I think about or focus on to have an orgasm?

TL;DR - What can women think about to have an orgasm in their committed relationship?

Submitted July 23, 2020 at 02:07PM by FlyingCupids https://ift.tt/30GMKWj