So my dear friend (F36) has been wanting a child for years. About 6 years ago she started the IVF process to have a child on her own, but soon after she started a romantic relationship with a family friend (M44) who she’d know platonically for years, let’s call him Dave.
He had been very supportive of her IVF journey but convinced her to put it on hold when they got to know each other in this new romantic way - with the view that they would hopefully try for children themselves together. Which she was happy to do.
They didn’t have any luck trying naturally, and so they recently (last 6 months) started the IVF route together and used all of her frozen eggs to make embryos.
Only one embryo survived and was due to be transferred tomorrow.
Yesterday she got a phone call from a random woman, Sally (F44), who claimed to have been having an affair with Dave for the last 12 months.
Dave subsequently confirmed he had been having this affair and offered no real explanation. He has gone to stay with friends.
Understandably my friend is devastated. Devastated for spending 6 years with Dave, who it turns out she never really knew. And devastated that she put her original IVF plan on hold and now has none of the eggs she froze when she was 29 and would’ve had a better chance of survival.
She’s in a lockdown state due to Covid, and so doesn’t have her friends able to rally around her like we would in normal times.
How can we best support her from afar (and any silly ideas of what we could send her to make her feel a bit better? Flowers seem insufficient)
TL;DR worried about dear friend who was cheated on by long term partner and found out the day before embryo transfer - after a long journey to get pregnant.
Edit: she does have a therapist who she sees semi regularly and has an appointment
Submitted July 29, 2020 at 03:10PM by genericlyspecial https://ift.tt/2BGwigm
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