Should I be mad at people I considered close friends for not caring that I had a very bad case of Covid-19?

I (details not really necessary) was diagnosed with Covid-19 about 10 weeks ago. I had a very bad bout of it, I even went to the hospital for 3 weeks. Had the whole nine yards: pneumonia, fevers, errything. Thankfully, however, I'm all better now, and have been for about a month. I recently returned to week two weeks ago. I work in a relatively small company (21 employees, plus the boss) so everyone knows everyone and we're kind of like a dysfunctional family. I have been working there for slightly over a decade, and have made two friends that I considered very close since basically day one. We used to always go on lunch breaks together, text, talk, make plans for after work, and etc. All 3 of us were basically like the dudes from Office Space, and I really cared about them a lot.

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Since my diagnosis, however, they haven't talked to me at all. No texts, no calls, nothing in person in the two weeks I've been back except one incident, total silence all around. They knew I was diagnosed, they knew I basically had a life threatening bout of the virus, the entire office talked about it and I wasn't exactly quiet on social media, which I know they saw (snapchat stories, which tells you). Still, total silence. Literally all but 4 people of the 21 that worked there messaged me, texted me, sent me letters in the hospital, or some concern. Some even went above and beyond in order to get my number from other people to wish me the best, hoping I get through it, words of encouragement, etc. Even the janitor who doesn't even speak English shot me a text. Among the 4 however, my two friends who I considered family did absolutely nothing. Neither of them bothered to text me, call me, ask how I'm doing, not even ask dumb questions like "wow, is it true you're in the hospital?" or show any basic care or concern. In the two weeks since I've been back, they've been openly ignoring me and kind of just give me a thousand mile stare when I walk past them. They haven't asked me to go to lunch or anything like in the past.

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I did manage to catch one of them on accident, I was talking to another coworker who was really excited I got back healthy and all and one of them was nearby and chimed in saying "welcome back" on like my sixth day back when we've seen each other around. When the other person left, I asked my so-called friend why they didn't bother to check up on me at all, why they didn't seem like they cared and why they ignored me since they came back. They basically ignored all the questions except the last one commenting "I knew you were mad about that so I didn't approach you."

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Should I be mad about all of that? I would think its basic fricking human decency to check up on someone who's in the hospital in a life threatening situation in the middle of a pandemic that's shaking up our daily lives. If anyone of them got it, I would be the first to annoy the hell out of them making sure they're okay every day, being there to provide whatever, even offering financial support or whatever. I'm not asking for any gift or pity or whatnot, but the fact they ignored me for 10 weeks straight knowing there's a legitimate chance I could die really irks me.

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So, fellow redditors, what do you think of all this? Sorry for the rant-like post, but this whole situation really irks me. Am I overreacting, or do I have a right to feel this way?

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TL;DR - Got covid, was life threatening, work at a small company of 21 people, only 4 didn't reach out to me. 2 of them were my supposed closest friends, who ignored me in the 2 weeks Ive came back from work.

Submitted July 19, 2020 at 02:41AM by throwRA_covidbuttmad https://ift.tt/2WDvpN0