I have been divorced for over 5 years and had two kids from my ex wife. I have pictures of her, pictures of her and us as a couple, pictures of her and the kids, and pictures of the entire family, I think you get the picture. I had kept everything offline on a hard drive, except that they all got uploaded to an online library and I have done a poor job of going back and deleting pictures from the online library. My fiance went through the online library and found all of these pictures and now doesn't feel special and feels insecure. I had talked to a family therapist before that had told me that I shouldn't have to delete any of these pictures from the past because I can show them to the kids when they get older, or if anything happens to their mom, that I would have pictures of her.
I don't have any feelings for my ex-wife. I had always kept photos of me with ex's from past relationships because I liked seeing snapshots of my youth and events in my history. I don't ever look at the photos and wish I were back with any of these people. I find it kind of sad to have to delete big chunks of my life just because there was an ex in the picture. My kids love seeing the old pictures of us and of them, but upsetting my partner like this doesn't seem worth it, so now I am going and deleting any pictures containing just my ex-wife in them, and any pictures in which I am in a close embrace my ex-wife. What is a good balance and what do you do?
TL;DR My fiance is insecure because of all the old photos I have of my ex-wife. I want to be able to keep them for my kids and as a snapshot in time for myself while trying to be reasonable with my partners feelings.
Submitted July 19, 2020 at 04:16PM by r1c081 https://ift.tt/3jhyPi2
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