So, to further explain my other half and I (22f) play DND, and have a friend group because of it. This one friend is super cool, however his wife, isn't. Hope (28f), is just a bit much, so to speak. (Known each other for a year now)
Now, I talk a lot and tend to be overly friendly so some people don't like me for that. And that is valid, however Ive never disliked someone because of their personality - until now.
Hope talks, and talks and talks. It's hard to have a conversation with her because she'll cut you off constantly. And that would be fine if she had something to talk about that isn't her medical history. We also have nothing in common other than house plants and being female. But my other half feels bad that Hope doesn't have many friends, so I try to hang out with her when other half and friend go fishing. (Although this is rare and few between)
Hope also doesn't come to DnD night (she isn't into it), but will constantly interpret with lengthy phone calls to friend or scheduling outside events on DnD night (which is annoying, but I also understand that life comes before a game. However it feels like she is doing it on purpose).
Now the main problem, is that Hope wants to host DnD nights. And I think it's a bad idea. Not only does Hope and friend fight constantly, but I really think Hope wouldn't 'respect' (Idk if that's the right word) the space enough for us to even be able to play. (She can't even leave friend a lone for the four hours he hangs out with us once every two weeks- if he has a chance to do that).
Now a lot of these problems that I have with her can be attributed to the fact that she is autistic. And it makes me feel bad that I don't like her, because she can't help being autistic. Some of her ticks are just who she is. But I don't know how to explain to friend that I feel DnD night at his place may not be a great idea.
Should we cave in and have DnD night with Hope? Or is there a way I explain how I feel without coming off like an asshole? I just never, just not liked someone before so I don't know how navigate this situation without coming off as fake, but I also don't want to be mean.
TLDR: Hope (28f) wants to host DnD nights, but I don't think it's a good idea because she doesn't understand that she talks, and interprets far to often. But I don't know how to explain that I don't like that, without coming off as mean.
Submitted July 19, 2020 at 09:00AM by Needs-Therapy https://ift.tt/2CLXScr
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