My (M/24) Girlfriend (F/26) overslept and was late for work and used my dad's cancer as an excuse. I can't help but to be upset.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2-3 months now. We've gotten along really well so far and haven't had any true arguments. She is genuinely one of the sweetest people I've ever met and cares deeply about me. However, something she did this morning caught me off guard and it's really digging at me.

About a month ago, I found out my dad has cancer. The prognosis is somewhat unclear at this point and it's something that's weighing heavily on me. I'm close with my parents and it was a huge blow to me after an already tough year.

My girlfriend was laid off from her job as a result of the pandemic back in March. That was a huge blow for her but recently got an invite to come back and work for the same company. It was a huge weight off her shoulders and she's very determined to work hard and keep her job. It's something she cares deeply about.

She sometimes takes medication to help her sleep and last night, she took it too late and wound up oversleeping. She was about 10-15 minutes late for work (I don't think it's that huge of a deal since I work for pretty forgiving managers but apparently she doesn't). She made a panicked decision to tell her group chat that she was late because she was attending to "family issues", implying she had to tend to myself and/or my family since my dad has cancer (she even told me that's what she was implying). Her coworkers/boss are aware my dad has cancer, no idea why it's their business, but I'm fine with it. I just feel incredibly weird that's the excuse she made. She then told me she was going to send an email to her boss explaining she was tending to "family matters" and apologize for being late. I told her to just leave it alone. She's bound and damned determined to make a good impression so that she doesn't get laid off again, which I 100% respect. It just feels very weird that she was so quick to lie and tell a lie that is very personal to me.

AITA for being upset here? I haven't really mentioned it to her yet. I'm willing to concede she may have been in a mental fog because of the sleeping medication, too. I've never taken sleeping meds so I don't know what it feels like. I just don't really know how to handle it but it bothers me.

TL;DR: My girlfriend overslept and was late for work. Instead of owning it, she lied and said she had to attend to a "family situation", while her coworkers/boss know my dad has cancer. Do I have a right to be upset? How do I approach this with her?

EDIT: Appreciate the thoughts, everyone. For added context, a couple of key details: 1) She is working remotely so her "getting to work" is merely logging onto her computer and joining a zoom call. I may be wrong but I believe she is much too stressed out about making a good impression. The company she works for seems fun and she said she loves working there. 2) When I asked her why she defaulted to "family issues", she said, "well, my manager knows about your dad". Although she was vague in her actual wording, the implication was clearly meant there.

EDIT 2: To all the people saying, "I'd totally be okay with my husband/wife doing this", please keep in mind I've only been with this person for 2-3 months. If I was married to her, this could be a different conversation but right now I feel like I'm still in the "getting to know her" stage. She's met my parents but isn't close with them.

Submitted July 24, 2020 at 01:43PM by SirTiger https://ift.tt/2OUwyeF