My friends(all 21f) and I (21f) met our other friends (21f) boyfriend (25m) for the first time and we hate him!!
So my friend started talking to this guy a year ago but he ended up breaking things off with her because he didn’t see a future with and then started dating another girl a week later. and this absolutely broke my friend and she hated him for the longest time. but about 2 months ago his gf broke up with him and he started talking to my friend again.
our friend group warned her of course and said to be cautious when it comes to him. but she ignored us and is now moving to his town a month into their relationship. they recently said I love you and are talking about marriage and kids. but mind you, they haven’t even been talking for a month and a half.
her bf came to town this weekend and we all decided to go to the bar and grab drinks. I decided I would meet him with my most unbiased face and wanted to give him another chance because people change ya know?
well what happened instead was the most awkward night of my life and i’m the type of person who gets along with almost anyone.
I’ll just go over a couple things that he did: he complained immediately about the rules of the bar and how we have to wear masks and he said he is just gonna break them all, (I watch anime and brought that up) and he asked oh are you the type that watches weird anime porn, he asked if the weird slit in my eyebrow was on person or not, said he can’t stand being around women and said he needs to be around more testosterone, called our asian friend “LING LING” (I called him out of course and he just laughed), kept telling his gf (our friend) to shut up, for mad at his gf for making a joke, told us all we don’t have real jobs cuz we have minimum wage jobs (we are all college students), told our friend she’s an idiot for going back to a guy who broke up with her (ironic), kept yelling at me when I said almost anything, made fun of our hearing impaired friend, and a lot more stuff if you can imagine.
Never in my life have I felt more uncomfortable, nervous, and unable to look someone in the eyes.. and the weirdest thing that happened was whenever we would bring something slightly controversial up our friend would whisper and tell us to be quiet and not bring that up around him.
So for obvious reasons our friend group does not like him and doesn’t want to see our friend be with him. we have told her in the past he doesn’t seem like a good guy but at this point i’m not sure what to do.
should we just stand by and remain silent? or should we speak up? and if so how do I go about speaking up?
at this point I don’t think I would really ever want to be around him ever again so it will be future issue I think.. so please help! i’m at a loss!! thank you for reading!
TL;DR! Our friends boyfriend is really rude and blatantly racist and we don’t know how to tell her we hate him or if we should tell her at all!
edit: I thought it would be good to add that my friend who is dating him is native american and he always says how if they have kids they will be ugly cuz of her dark skin and he tells people that she is his little indian... ( cannot even fathom how she is okay with his blatant racism!!)
edit 2: everything that took place that night happened over an hour period of time.
Submitted July 19, 2020 at 05:10PM by four-lokos https://ift.tt/32DfAcO
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