So, we've been together for a bit over 6 months now. We've had our ups and downs, but for the most part it's really been great. We have similar sense of humor, share some hobbies, agree on plans for the future, have generally compatible views/values, sex is amazing, and last but not least, she has been a huge emotional support for me over these past few months (I have a bag of issues myself and I know I can be difficult to be around when I'm in bad place, but she has shown nothing but never-ending patience and support).
Generally, we immensely enjoy spending time together.
The only thing that bothers me is the fact that she is kinda gullible when it comes to some conspiracy theories (COVID is "overblown", politicians are puppets controlled by illuminati, shit like that).
Now, I've tried reasoning with her, but I find it hard to talk about it without her getting defensive and turning the conversation into something roughly resembling a heated internet debate. Plus, she sometimes points out that it doesn't really get in the way of our day-to-day life (which is true I guess, even with her "skepticism" about the pandemic, she still adheres to the mask-wearing restrictions and similar stuff), so she doesn't understand why we can't just "agree to disagree".
On one hand, I understand that no couple will ever 100% match each other, and maybe I should just accept that she has a weird quirk like that and just not think about it too hard. Maybe I'm just a nitpicking asshole, and I'm stupid to complain considering how good this relationship otherwise is.
On the other hand, I feel like the whole thing makes me not respect her as much as I'm supposed to? Sometimes she says things that are, well, for lack of a better word, stupid. And I know that if it was anybody else, I would just tell them their opinion is moronic and carry on, but she is my partner and I don't wanna treat her like that. So it would appear that I have two options:
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bite my tongue and pretend I don't find some of her views ridiculous, which just seems dishonest
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engage in a discussion every time the topic comes up, which I think might be tiring in the long run and I'm not sure if I'm doing a good job actually convincing her
I'm not really sure what I'm expecting, but maybe someone had a similar issue and can share their experience? Is there some solution I'm not seeing? Or maybe just some advice on how to reason with people without making them defensive?
tl;dr: Girlfriend is great, but believes in conspiracy theories and it bothers me. I'm not sure if I'm making a fuss out of nothing. If I'm not, how should I proceed?
Submitted July 19, 2020 at 01:35PM by Bonnibel2 https://ift.tt/30t6cWE
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