TL;DR: Friends husband messaged me on dating app. I let him know I knew him and was blocked. Didn’t tell his wife. 6 months later I see him come up on a coworkers match for same site. Time to tell her?
So this is a sticky situation for sure. I worked with a woman for many years until around 6 years ago. We were close while coworkers but we drifted apart in the years since. I was working with this friend when she started dating her husband. There were issues in the beginning with him still going on dating sites after they were supposed to be exclusive. They were married last fall after being together the last six years. Their wedding was a small gathering and I did not attend but saw all the pics on FB. I had switched stores about six months into the relationship so the husband and I had met but it was only once or twice and very brief.
Fast forward to January of this year. I received a message on a dating site. When I looked at his profile I knew immediately who he was. The husband. I was curious to see what he would say so I answered back. Of course it didn’t take long for him to start asking inappropriate questions and wanting to exchange photos. I sent him a message asking him if his wife knew he was on that site. I told him he better tell her before I did. He immediately blocked me but I had already taken screenshots of the messages. I went on Facebook and sent him a PM. I told him if he didn’t come clean with his wife I would. I knew who he was, I knew who his wife was and I also knew this exact thing had been an issue from the beginning. The message is still unread. I confided in a family member and a close friend who both said I should basically mind my own business. She knew what he did before, she wasn’t naive about him. Leave it be. To be honest I really struggled with that but in the end I didn’t want to be the one to have to tell her. I feel like....I took the cowards way out.
Recently, a coworker was on the very same site and guess who was in her matches? We are the same age and on the same site so we sometimes compare who comes up. I didn’t say anything to her other than ‘that one is a creep’. I would like some honest opinions. Is it now time to bring my friend up to speed or once again turn a blind eye?
Submitted July 19, 2020 at 07:50PM by MostlyMorose https://ift.tt/39arpbO
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