Boyfriend (28m) seems to enjoy egging me on and making me upset. I can't respect his views on mental health either. How do I go about talking to him about this?

This was here earlier, but my question was not worded clearly, so here it is again. Hopefully this is more coherent.

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. We have great compatability in terms of mutual interests, and feel very strongly for each other. That being said, lately I’ve been noticing just how different we are in terms of personality and values.

I’m admittedly not great with confrontation and can’t express anger or annoyance very well. I’ve made him well aware of these tendencies of mine and I’m working on them. He will tease me well beyond the point of it being funny, mostly regarding the same topics. These being my appearance (me not looking my ethnicity, my couple of tattoos, weight, etc.) I’ll be looking or sounding visibly annoyed, but still he won’t stop. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve been near tears or straight up crying several times. I know I need to work on being more comfortable asserting my boundaries, but he also knows I struggle with that. I’ve asked him many times to stop making such comments on my appearance, but he still does it. He’s said before that he wants to see me get actually upset, and what I’d be like in that situation. So is he purposely egging me on here?

He will also make comments about how mentally ill people just need more willpower, he’s even used the term “little bitches”. I deal with anxiety/depression, and so do several members of my family, so I can’t respect his view on that cause I know it’s not factual and very unempathic. His low empathic range has been becoming increasingly obvious. He doesn’t see empathy towards anyone outside his inner circle as a necessary trait. It’s becoming worrying to me how cold he can be to others, and even me sometimes. I don’t know why he seems to enjoy making me upset.

Tl:dr; boyfriend teases mercilessly and is overly critical at times, has shitty hot takes on mental health issues. Getting pretty fed up, how do I go about talking to him about this?

Submitted July 22, 2020 at 04:15PM by nyaaaby https://ift.tt/2Cu9n8B