I [27F] am uncomfortable about my bf [25M]'s good friend [25F], but they've been friends longer than I've known him. Am I being too worried?

Some context, he moved to a new city 3 years ago and was super lonely. He met her, let's call her Mel, through a sport, and then she introduced him to all her friends and he got this big friend circle and was much happier for it. Great up to this point. When they met she was also in a relationship but broke up shortly after and been single since. The both of them have never tried dating each other through the 3 years.

I met my bf on a dating app about a year or so ago, and being with him has been the best year of my life. He's basically the best human being ever, tall, very good looking, has a great career and is driven etc. etc. I could not be happier with him as a bf. I want him to propose to me and spend the rest of my life with him, and as my love for him has grown everyday, I find myself getting insecure about things and worrying that he'll leave me.

His relationship with Mel has me nervous sometimes. Like last night we were hanging out and getting dinner with his friends, and she sat next to him and put her arms around him and snuggled close, while I was sitting across the table. Like isn't that a bit much? Two weeks ago we all got a bit drunk, and she flat out slapped his ass. I don't think anyone except me noticed because we were all near passed out, and he himself barely registered it.

She touches him a lot and hugs him super tight very often and all of it just makes me very uncomfortable as his gf.

They also text frequently, and she basically updates him on every little detail about her life (he actually shows me her texts sometimes).

To be fair, he has never given me a reason to doubt him ever.

I want to bring this up with him, but I'm very afraid he'll think I'm trying to control him, especially because he's known her way longer than he's known me. I don't want him to distance himself from me so I never bring this up. Should I?

Tl;Dr: Bfs female bff is pretty touchy with him and I'm worried, but I don't want to be controlling.

Submitted March 06, 2020 at 02:11PM by udontwantdis https://ift.tt/2wycDfI