I got upset at my boyfriend for not being grateful for money I was lending him, am I right to be mad..

Context is, we was meant to be going to the cinema tonight, he decided while he was with his friends he was gonna go to a quiz night instead as it’s his friends birthday which I understand but still ticked me off a little as he waited until the last minute to tell me. I just ignored that and spoke with him normally whilst he was out (I’m never confrontational usually).

During that time, he messaged me saying he was in his overdraft and needed $75 to get out of it. I just got paid so he asked me he could lend $75 just to get him out of overdraft so he didn’t have to pay the fees. I said fair and asked him what kinda time he was gonna be back, he said 10-11pm so I was like calm, pls try not to be later (or if you are, at least let me know) bc it’s a work night for me and him and it’s frustrating if he comes back absolutely sloshed and really late, waking me up, when we both have to get up at 7am.

He then messages me again after I sent him the $75 saying ‘no drink money?:(‘ and I was like ‘lmao what? how much are you asking for?’ he said around $30 extra as he’s gonna get the taxi home but he will pay me back next week when he gets paid. I said that’s literally over $100 and I only just got paid, even though you’re paying it back I’m still set back $100+ for a week.. I’ll give you $15 to get a taxi home (it’s only about $5-$7 for a taxi back) and the rest you can use for drink money. He replies ‘why? why not $30? you’re getting it back.’ and suddenly turns really blunt with me, I ask what’s wrong with $15 and he’s like ‘most drinks are over $5...’ so I just told him he needed to be more grateful and I didn’t even have to give him that money if I didn’t want to. He responded if I wanted him to be back before 12pm then I had to give him the money or he wouldn’t get a taxi home.

I snapped at him completely and just told him he didn’t need to be blunt with me over this, he told me I was overreacting and arguing w him for no reason?!?

tldr; my bf asked me to lend him over $100, I told him I’d lend him $95 - he questioned why I wouldn’t give him the full amount when I was getting it back in a week.

Submitted January 31, 2019 at 02:23PM by pixielotto http://bit.ly/2Bgujfe