My partner (24M) of a little over a year is becoming more religious and is not emotionally connecting with me (23M)

my partner has an emotionally abusive past, and therefore mirrors a lot of the qualities from his past. because he has a hard time confiding in anyone emotionally, in recent years, he turned to god for emotional support. now, he’s turning to god more and more and neglecting to open up to me about anything he’s going through emotionally because “nobody can help him.”

edit: he doesn’t really open up to me much at all, but in the few times he has, it’s usually a positive experience for him.

it’s creating a disconnect in our relationship because when i want to go to him for emotional support, i get hit with a “go to god,” even when i expressed to him that i’m not christian or willing to do that. when i tell him that, he says that he “has nothing else to give me,” and if his “response isn’t good enough, that’s too bad.”

i really want him to try therapy and work towards healing from his past, because he’s becoming more devout and closed off by the day.

tl:dr - my partner is confiding in his religion and closing off emotionally to me (and everyone else around him) while also not being available to support me emotionally. our emotional connection feels like its fading.

so lost right now

Submitted April 06, 2021 at 10:00AM by igotogtsadly https://ift.tt/31SNZTy