Original post here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/lcuhl7/advice_on_breaking_up_with_my_38m_unstable/
I want to thank everyone who chimed in with advice and feedback, which helped validate my beliefs that my partner was abusive and situation was untenable. In the midst of the relationship, I doubted everything, but I feel much clearer now.
I did it. I broke up with her, and flew back to my home country. I thought I would wait a bit longer before making the move, but some unexpected money came in that allowed me to book my flights, and once I made up my mind, I knew I had to do it quickly. It was terrible, there was no way for me to leave in the middle of the night because I had too much stuff to pack and I needed it all for work - I had to go through a confrontation and endure 3.5 hours of her trying desperately to change my mimd.
But I was determined to get out of there. I had made up my mind that I would call the police if she tried to stop me from getting in that taxi, and/or an ambulance if she threatened suicide. She did neither - I think she could sense that I was not fucking around this time, unlike previous breakups where I lacked the resolve to follow through, and let myself be manipulated and persuaded into staying.
Anyway. It's over now, for the first few days I was worried sick about her well-being, but our friends are taking care of her and may even let her live with them while she figures out her next move. I'm honouring my plan to pay her expenses for two months and I'll cut contact completely once that's done.
I moved to my brother's city where I will spend the spring and summer, and he is expecting a baby soon so I will get to be an uncle and help out around the house. I'm grateful to be around family and to have something to look forward to. I feel like I've taken my life back. Still, I'm sad, I really did love her dearly.
Thanks everyone for giving me frank but helpful advice, it made a huge difference, I am ready now to start my healing and get on with my life.
TLDR; went through with the breakup.
Submitted February 22, 2021 at 09:42PM by TruthElectrical https://ift.tt/3smDIKC
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