I have been with my ex for about 5 years now and we have lived together for 3 of those years. She moved in with me after I bought a house which is only under my name. Long story short, we are no longer together as of October last year but are living together due to high cost of living and this benefits both of us. We established that this was temporary so she could get her finances together to move out to her own place.
Things have definitely changed now and she has moved on and has a new boyfriend. This hurts me to know she is moving on but I understand this is the natural process of things. We have our own friends and living spaces but share portions of the house while she is still here.
What is eating away at me is that she brings her boyfriend back to my house to have sex and hangout. I discussed this with her and that it makes me very uneasy and uncomfortable for her to bring this guy back and I asked her to respect my feelings and keep it outside of the house. She said I was being totally outrageous and inconsiderate to her by telling her how to live her life and that I would do the same if I had the chance. There was zero constructive feedback from her and she continues to bring this guy back, at this point, seemingly to rub it in my face. I can hear them and it breaks my heart to know what's going on and I feel so powerless. I served her a notice to vacate as we only have a verbal contract, I could use the income but I feel my sanity slipping and its just not worth it anymore. She wants to move on to somebody else but not move on to another place to live. -Am I coming completely from left field on trying to set this boundary? I am going crazy thinking that I am being an asshole or trying to dictate her life.
++update- Thank you all for your context and insight, it has really helped me make sense of what is going on and I couldn't ask for anything more. To be frank, I do not want legal advice as I have thoroughly researched my options but I guess tenancy issues like this naturally brings out the legal do's and dont's. I will remain firm in moving this process along and thank everyone again for your time and input.
tl;dr: Ex and I are still living together after being together for 5 years and she has made no plans to live somewhere else while moving on to another guy who she brings back to my house for sex.
Submitted February 23, 2021 at 03:22PM by sacredmango13 https://ift.tt/3dGyQMb
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