TL;DR - Grew up having a toxic relationship with my sister, she comes to the rescue for me. Now I don't know if I should rebuild a relationship with her.
Woah, I can't believe I finally broke and created a Reddit account. I've been a long-time lurker for years & this is finally the situation that made me want to post for the first time.
A bit of a background story, my sister and I share the same dad but have different mums. She grew up in North America whilst I grew up in Asia. Due to family dynamics, there has always been tension between the two of us. That being said, I know she has always loved & cared about me. I recently moved back to the city she lives in two years ago. At the start of COVID, we got into a large fight in which we both said that neither of us wants a relationship with each other anymore.
Time moves on and last month, I get offered the job of my dreams with a rival competitor. I wasn't moving forward in my old position which is why I accepted the role. This led to me getting served a cease and desist by my former company. It essentially said that I had violated my non-compete agreement and needed to quit my job. Panicked, I called my sister who immediately found me a lawyer through her connections that costs more than my annual salary. I wasn't required to pay a single cent and as a direct result, my old company backed off.
This leads me to the present day. I am so fortunate to have a sibling that protects me. The issue is, I cannot help but feel guilty. We cut off our relationship because despite both of us trying, our relationship has always been a toxic cycle. I've reached out and thanked her. When I get my paycheck next week, I am planning on sending her a handwritten card, flowers, and a bottle of wine. Part of me feels like I should put in the effort of rebuilding our relationship. The other side of me says that I've been down this road before and it has never ended well. I am truly conflicted and whilst I know that my problems aren't nearly as bad as some of the other people that post on Reddit, I can't help but feel torn over this situation. Growing up, this was someone I admired and in many ways, I still see her as a real-life version of Super Woman.
Should I be trying to rebuild our relationship?
*MISTAKE* - I wrote that my age is 20F. Whoops, I'm actually 23. My bad!
Submitted February 23, 2021 at 12:43PM by C000KI3L0V3R https://ift.tt/3bwZbJJ
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