Is it wrong for me(26F) to be jealous of my bf’s (28M) nephew’s girlfriend (21F) bc of how he talks to her on online games (and sometimes IRL)?

I didn’t realize how much of a gamer my boyfriend was when we started dating. After about two months of us being together he started becoming more comfortable with gaming whenever he felt compelled to, regardless of what I wanted to do. I feel horrible about the fact that I get jealous of this woman he games with who is his nephews girlfriend. There isn’t an extreme age gap (he’s 8 years older than them) but it’s been feeling like he’d rather be gaming with them most of the time more and more, than spending time with me. He plays CoD with them and I tried to get him to involve me, and help me understand the dynamics of the game more, but it seems like he easily loses patience with this and just would rather play with them. What struck me as weird was when I met them in real life and his behavior towards her. The level of closeness it felt they had made me uncomfortable and caused me to enter a state of mind where I was silent and couldn’t stop thinking about it. Like I couldnt compare to her. I saw a side of him that seemed so comfortable and energetic and like he was being his true self around her and they had a banter that was more exciting than what we have I guess is what it felt like. I get that he’s known her for longer but I can’t shake a feeling of jealousy towards her and like he is more himself around her. So now, after realizing this when I saw how he interacts with her, I can’t help but feel jealous when he games and she’s online because I’m wondering how much of it is him wanting to have this excited banter with her. It’s hard for me to hear the way he talks and gets excited when gaming and I know it’s with her (or her and her bf) because I don’t feel like I can do anything to make him that happy I guess. When I’ve mentioned his connection with her he usually says something to write me off like “oh I forgot you’re a total weirdo about that”. Is it wrong of me to have this reaction and am I being overly jealous? I just don’t feel good enough whenever I think of the relationship they have.

Tl;dr I’m jealous of the relaxed relationship my boyfriend has with a girl he online games with regularly even though she’s dating his nephew.

Submitted February 23, 2021 at 06:54PM by munchkinbreath666 https://ift.tt/3bAbC7J