My husband 34M is addicted to weed

Hi, I’m 27F and we’ve been married for about a year now. My husband has a history with weed and it’s been always coming back.

He was unemployed 2 years and 4 months ago and all he would do is smoke weed. He completely went through my weed stash without telling me. This was a time when we were dating and in love so I didn’t mind. I spoke to him and told him that I didn’t like his weed smoking habits and he stopped. He promised he would never do it again. I felt really lucky.

So just about 5 months ago we moved to London for his job. Ever since we moved here, he picked up the habit again. He would come back from work high (he goes to the library as he’s working on his thesis). I noticed and he admitted he started smoking again. He broke his promise which was upsetting. And he kept on smoking. He works from home so the house smelt like weed or whenever he came back from the library, he would smell like weed. He was always high whenever it came to time for both of us to socialise. This obviously created a lot of resentment on my side. Which then created a lot of fights and then he justified smoking more.

So few months later, he decided to get off smoking weed and buys a vape instead. He lies to me and tells me it’s a gift for his brother and he’s testing it out which obviously it wasn’t. So now he’s vaping even more. After ignoring my advice for months, he finally realises weed is not good for him. He then turns to CBD. Now he’s always smoking that now and the house stinks like weed. Every 40 minutes and he needs to smoke. He’s smoking in the bathroom, lounge... everywhere. The smell is so bothersome and it makes me really uncomfortable.

We keep fighting about this. He now says he’s vaping CBD because of his back. He started having back problems lately. He then promised to get off vaping CBD and taking it orally which I have zero problems with. But obviously, any promise he makes on this topic is just a lie. He goes to the store the next day and buys CBD, and continues vaping it. He literally doesn’t care.

This is driving me mad. I don’t feel comfortable at home. It always smells like weed. I’m not very comfortable with my partner being on his vape all day. He tells me I’m too controlling and I get in his way all the time. He tells me if I started smoking, he would advise me to stop but he would find it hot overall. He has started to tell me I’m a toxic person and all I do is find problems. What should I do? I really love him but this problem is really destroying our relationship. Am I controlling and overreacting?

Tldr; my husband keeps lying about his weed-related addiction. He is constantly lying and hiding his smoking/vaping behaviour. He smokes/vapes every 40 minutes. He tells me I’m toxic because his habits make me uncomfortable. What should I do? Am I controlling and overreacting?

Submitted February 27, 2021 at 11:52AM by alphamemedream https://ift.tt/37Uy9uY