Some of our family have been implying my (29F) sister (27F) isn’t good enough for her fiancé (28M). I’m not sure if I should tell her or not.

I am very close to my sister. I have stepsiblings and half-siblings, but she is the only sibling I have that I share both parents with and who has experienced all of the good and bad times with me. That being said, I’m not sure if this is something, I should tell her or keep to myself because I don’t want to hurt her and ruin what should be one of the happiest times in her life.

So, my sister is engaged to someone who would be viewed as the jackpot in terms of life partners for a lot of people. He is incredibly attractive, comes from a wealthy family but is also hard-working and is a kind and caring person. Anyone that sees him with my sister can see he practically worships the ground she walks on. Honestly, my sister is a wonderful person, so she deserves to have someone who loves her as much as he does.

They’ve been dating for 3 years and got engaged last month. So now our entire family has finally met him and some of our family have not so nice opinions on their relationship. The most common comment they’ve made is that they think he is too attractive for my sister and will outshine her. My sister is very pretty in my opinion, but she isn’t conventionally attractive by western standards. They’ve made some nasty jabs about how she must do nasty things in bed for him to be willing to marry her or that this is a weird form of charity on his part. The absolute worst thing they’ve said though is when a few of our cousins were jokingly making bets on who could seduce him away from her first.

I want to tell my sister, but I also don’t want to hurt her. I remember when her fiancé first asked her out, she thought he was trying to pull a prank on her. She kept turning him down because she thought it had to be a joke and it took him a long time to convince her he was serious. My sister has finally reached a place where she feels happy and secure in her relationship, I don’t want their comments to make her doubt herself again. However, it's looking increasingly likely that they will have a destination wedding, which they will probably fund. I don’t think people who think so badly of my sister should essentially get a free holiday from her.

What do I do? Should I tell her or just act like nothing is going on?

TL;DR – Some of my family have been saying my sister isn’t attractive enough for her fiancé and have even joked about which one of our cousins will be the one to seduce him away from her. I’m not sure if I should tell my sister because she was previously incredibly insecure in her relationship but is finally in a happy place which I don’t want to ruin.

Submitted February 21, 2021 at 05:17PM by ThrowRAjudgy https://ift.tt/3pH7xUb