I'm 36M, and own my house. In 2015 my dad told me he had kidney disease and his time was running out. This coincided with me leaving the military and was looking to by a house in Washington state. My dad owned the house that I grew up in (in Oklahoma), and when his time came, I'd inherit it. We decided it would be best for me to return home to help him, and I bought the house from him outright, since it would be easier (for legal reasons) than inheriting it. The understanding was that it is now my house, that I'm fully responsible for.
The house was a mess. Much worse condition than the last time I saw it a year prior. It was full of hoarder trash, holes in the walls, and the furniture almost completely destroyed. It turns out that my junky of an older brother took advantage of my weakened dad while I was serving. I kicked my brother out, and spent the next 18 months and 10's of thousands of dollars getting the house back in order.
As the state of the the house improved, so did my dad's mental state, and in turn his physical state stopped declining. He did very well emotionally and even started dating a neighbor. In 2017, he moved in with her, and I was free to start living my life again. I had some dates with decent women and things were going well for me.
Then in 2019 my dad's girlfriend died, her kids inherited her stuff (rightfully so) and my dad moved back in with me. He got rid of his bed, saying he didn't like it. But he never bought a new one. He sleeps on a bedroll in the living room. Every single night. I've offered to buy him a bed, but he says the floor makes his back feel better. I've asked repeatedly for him to sleep in his bedroom, but he says he likes having the tv on. I've put a nice tv in his room, but he still won't sleep in there.
When I invite a woman over, he just hangs out in the living room, eating snacks as if we were all there to just hang out together. I've tried to make him understand that I would like to be alone with them, but he just acts like a jealous child, saying that it's his house (it's not, anymore) and if we want to be alone, go to my bedroom. He is very messy, takes no initiative to clean up after himself, and takes a shower less than once a week. He'll just laugh when I tell him he stinks and needs to shower. It makes the house stink and I'm sure no woman is impressed with it.
I spent the rest of the money that I had saved on fixing the house back up, and I don't want to spend the money I make now starting over again on a new house, or a rental.
I don't know what to do. Women get tired of having me go to their place and never coming to mine pretty quickly.
I love my dad, we get along well when it comes to everything else, and I'd never kick him out.
It's been 2 years and I just don't know what to do. He's ruining my life and refuses to see it.
tl;dr My dad lives with me and doesn't give me privacy when it comes to women.
Submitted February 21, 2021 at 03:27PM by BadlyAaronHere https://ift.tt/2Nrs5Dc
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