I just want to start by saying I love my life. Honestly. We have one beautiful child together and I cannot imagine life without her, which is why this hurts every time this happens.
Whenever we're approaching her time of the month, she gets, let's say, insatiable. I love the intimacy I have with my wife, but I have limits these days. Maybe I've got low testosterone but it takes up a little longer than it used to to generate the stamina I need. This is completely unacceptable to her when she is in this state of mind. I get accusations of cheating, of not thinking she's attractive anymore, and of not being in love with her. And to be clear, We could have sex 3-4 times, and it would be the last time where I say I can't go that sets her off and makes her upset.
Anytime outside of this weeklong period, we have zero issues. Something always comes to a head at these specific times though where I cannot say the right thing, words are twisted and it seems she goes out of her way to twist and contort my words to further hurt her feelings.
When she's like this it tears me apart inside. I feel so comfortable in our relationship that hearing all this jerks me out of my 'reality' I guess and I am always caught off guard.
To the latest issue, I am currently in transit to a temporary duty location. I'll be gone for a couple months. I've been gone a matter of days so far. She was getting a little frisky on the phone and I guess I didn't seem excited enough for it. I can be pretty awkward, but I've never been a fan of showing stuff over the phone and I really don't know how to react when I'm presented with it. She promptly hung up on me and begun texting me with the same stuff she usually says. My head is in knots and, even though I'm sure everything will be fine in the end, it still concerns me everytime this happens. She says she deserves someone who is crazy about her, she thinks I'm cheating on her (for the record, I have never cheated in any relationship. I consider myself a very faithful person and if it ever got bad enough to where I wanted to be with someone else, I would not disrespect my current partner by lying about it or leading some kind of second life).
She has threatened divorce a couple times but I swear its like light and day, when she gets done with her period she is back to normal and she basically pretends like what happened never did, and she refuses to talk about it.
I feel like I'm being gaslighted. Has anyone had a relationship like this? Was there something that you did to make it work? I'm going to buy testosterone supplements to see if that's a problem. I love my wife and would do anything to make her happy, but she messes with my head pretty good sometimes.
TL;DR
My wife goes through moods of resentment when I can't give her everything she desires sexually. 9 times out of 10 we're fine, but that 1 is really bad and its recurring on a regular schedule. Is my marriage ok?
Submitted February 19, 2021 at 09:19PM by throwawayfrushubby https://ift.tt/3ujp6xl
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