My bf (21M) and I (21F) have been together for 3 years. Since the start of our relationship, I’ve told him how much I would love to have some sort of cheap jewellery to symbolise us that I can wear all the time. I’ve gotten him a couple personalised rings and a bracelet for this reason. Each time I brought this up, he had told me that he would get something for me. However, 3 years later and I’ve never received anything. I know it’s just a gift but, given how important this is to me and how I always wished to have something to wear like he does, I felt hurt and upset and we got into a fight. I told him that I no longer wanted a gift like that for the time being, because it would just feel like it was bought due to me being upset, not from the bottom of his heart.
The issue now is, despite pouring out everything that I felt and how receiving a necklace or a ring would only make me feel worse, he went ahead and bought one anyway. It’s really difficult to accept because not only did he go ahead and buy something I said I did not want, looking at it will always remind me of the fight. And the fact that it was bought out of guilt, not love.
I don’t know if this is a small insignificant issue. But it’s making me feel very hurt and confused. How do I accept this gift and stop having painful feelings bubble up whenever I look at it?
TLDR; my boyfriend bought me a necklace after I said I was upset that I’ve never received one, and now I can only see it as a gift bought out of guilt, not love, and I feel unappreciated and hurt.
Submitted November 22, 2020 at 11:09PM by throwawayyy_000 https://ift.tt/3l1oNkB
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