My partner of 5 years (M43) slept with someone while we were on a break (I’m F42). When we reconnected after being apart for a month, we had some really great, honest, open conversations about the past and future and agreed that we were both committed to each other and the relationship and making it work. At this point, he told me he had only been talking to her for two weeks and that they’d met a couple times, but that he wasn’t intimate/didn’t have sex with her.
I told him I wanted him to get tested before I’d be intimate with him again (because you never know) and he agreed, but the first night we reconnected we slept beside each other naked, no sex but there was skin to skin contact. Two days later, I started having symptoms and soon realized he gave me herpes (test results still pending). He was having symptoms too, and then confessed he did have unprotected sex with the other woman.
It’s been 3 weeks of a very painful first outbreak; I’m completely devastated and really struggling emotionally/psychology with the diagnosis. I do love him and we have a lot of history, but I can’t stop feeling sick about the fact that he was capable of doing this in the first place... moving on so fast, lying to me about the intimacy, and putting my health at risk.
I’m feeling really torn about whether to stay and work through this with him, or try to forgive and move on without him. Also feeling a bit “stuck” and damaged, and can’t imagine how I could date again or disclose this to a potential partner. Looking for help, advice or similar/shared experiences. Thank you!
TL;DR! My (F42) boyfriend (M43) of 5 years slept with someone while we were on a break and gave me herpes. Trying to work through it but feeling torn. Need advice!
Submitted July 21, 2020 at 09:05AM by thatgypsygirl_ https://ift.tt/3fPP2Zv
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