So I'm going to keep this as short and sweet as I can, even though I want to vent because this is all still a new development for me.
My ex (32) and I (30) dated for two years before he got a promotion within his company that was going to relocate him to another state, 2000 miles away from home. I remember being really excited that we were going to go off on our own, and have just this amazing adventure and would start a new life together. So he moved down first for two weeks and then I followed after with a few interviews lined up. First one out the gate I ended up getting, it was great money and we ended up settling ourselves halfway between both jobs in a cute rental house. There was a particular day on our first couple weeks there where we were snuggling on the couch in our own place, watching TV, and just talking about the future where I thought that life literally could not get better. Aaaaand well life wanted to throw a curveball into all of that.
Two months in he started acting different. I knew his job was slow getting off the ground but he still seemed happy. There were never any fights, weirdness at all, but two weeks later he woke me up early and asked if I would talk with him. He said he wanted to move back home, he just had an apathetic feeling to our new location and that he wanted his old job back. So I took that as we were going to have to figure out a few things like the house and removing our stuff. If I'm being honest, I didnt love the job I had because I took it mainly because the money was good, but I didn't necessarily have a passion for it. Well he then told me that he wanted to go home alone, without me. So that weekend he packed his things and his brother flew down so he could drive a truck back home.
To say I was devastated was an understatement. I ended up being fired from that job a month later because I stopped caring. I had to move out of the house and into a rental with strangers while I worked two part time jobs to survive. I didn't want to go back to my home state because he was there. So I stuck it out and you know what? It rocks now!! I have a ton of friends, a new awesome job that I enjoy, and I just signed the lease to a new place. I am so happy right now. I have worked my ass off and my life is just freaking awesome. I blocked my ex on everything except he did get some information about me from mutual friends about all the fun things I was doing. Many things of which were stuff we enjoyed together. So every so often I would hear from him and him tell me how "jealous" he is and how "proud" of me he is. And honestly it pissed me off, I wouldn't respond.
So about a month ago (its since been 11 months since he left) he reaches out to tell me that he is moving back to the state he left me in and hoped we could be friends. Again I didn't respond, but I was angry. So two nights ago I get a picture from him of our old rental house asking if I remembered this place (no shit.) And I asked if he actually did move down here, which he replied that he did...with his new girlfriend. They now live 15 minutes from my house.
I don't want to live here anymore. This literally has taken the wind out of my sails. He has texted me again telling me that he still considers me a friend and that the state we live in is large so we won't have to see each other. But it ain't large enough now. Why the hell would he move this close to me? Oh and in one of his last texts he sent before I told him to leave he alone, was about how great his new gf is and we would be such good friends because she didn't know anyone down here.
I just don't get it. I'm afraid he's going to somehow invade my friend group because we all hang out in the town, and do things my ex likes to do. Like it scares the hell out of me to think I will bump into him. I need some words of encouragement. And I partially want something to say to him that will dig at his soul. Yeah I know thats not what I should do but I'm so hurt right now...
TL:DR - My ex and I move 2000 miles from home only for him to decide he didn't want to be there, broke up with me, and left me to figure it out alone. A year has passed and life couldn't be better for me right now! But I was just informed that he moved back with his new gf to a place that is 15 minutes from where I live now.
Submitted July 17, 2020 at 05:19PM by AsleepIllustrator https://ift.tt/2WweHPs
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