As the title said, I had a very father/daughter dynamic with this man for the past year of working together. He knows that I view him as a father, especially because he reminds me of my actual dad. Over the past week he's been acting very weird towards me, but I assumed issues outside of work were effecting him.
There were a few middle aged men at work who had relationships with the college students where we work, and we would joke about how nasty those relationships are. Then, yesterday, he said he needed to talk to me in private and then he confesses his attraction to me. I was taken aback and feel betrayed. He made it seem like it was "our" problem, but I really think it's just his. I'm confused by his sudden switch from "work dad" who wanted to protect the younger ones from the gross men to becoming one of them himself.
I do not want to go to HR about it, because I don't think he'll make any more advances after I firmly told him "no", and because he does have kids to support. What I'm looking for is advice on how to establish boundaries at work so that he doesn't misinterpret politeness for attraction.
EDIT- my workspace is small, and the other coworkers are two of my close friends who were hired around the same time as me. Since the three of us had an established dynamic it wasn't hard to just add him into it. Now I don't know how to create a distant and polite co-worker workplace dynamic since we never had one in the first place.
tl;dr: I don't know how to continue a normal work relationship with him, and am not sure how to handle this sudden shift in dynamic.
Submitted March 03, 2020 at 02:26PM by koolkula98 https://ift.tt/2TjcfdS
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