I [23F] feel like friends [20F] and [22M] are making my friendship entirely about their relationship

So I am great friends with both let’s call her Sally [20F] and Donte [22M] separately for around 2 years before they ever came in contact. I invited them both to a convention I was going too and they really hit it off and began dating.

Now, after 3 months Donte has practically moved in with me and my other friend [21F]. Hell, he moved in practically a few weeks after they started dating. It’s not the biggest space but it’s not bothering me too much. Other when they’re being so clingy and won’t get off of one another in the family room; I’m not too bothered by him being here.

The thing is I can’t do anything with Donte without Sally getting jealous for not being there ect. For example, I went to Donte’s first therapy session with him cause his family has a big stigma with therapy. He wanted me to come cause I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was 13 and he felt I wouldn’t judge him. I said cool I’ll help ya out. Sally got jealous about this and seemed to snap at me about it. I was kind of just like he asked me to go? I was honestly baffled at the whole ordeal

I am really good friends with Sally. And sometimes when we’re hanging out all she wants to do is talk about Donte. I tried to say no once and she snapped at me. I tried to explain to her and she apologized but nothing has changed.

Donte has still been good about not constantly talking about Sally. There’s just been times we’ve been playing a video game or something and he ditches me the moment Sally gets here.

They also have put me in between with their relationship. For example, they both will come to me and just talk a bunch about what they said to one another or what they did together or where they’re going or what they’re doing or just everything surrounding them. Sally constantly reminds me how long they’ve been dating and tries to get me to be like “I’m so happy for you” every time. Like I am VERY happy for them I just don’t want our entire relationship to be about them.

I don’t mind them talking about their relationship it just I dunno what they want from me. I feel like I can’t be their friend independently from the relationship.

They have been good friends to me and helped me tons with the passed of my grandmother who was like my mom in my life. I just feel excluded and feel like I’m losing some of my good friends. I don’t know if I’m being petty or something... help?

Side note I’m gay and have no romantic feelings toward either of them

TLDR; Friends who are now dating are putting me in their relationship and making me feel excluded in everything.

Submitted March 01, 2020 at 12:21PM by LesbianPearl https://ift.tt/3cifKc9