I [28M] promised to help girlfriend's [27F] younger brother [21M] with finding an internship and career opportunities. Now we're broken up but I still want to help him out. Should I?

My ex has a younger brother who's just about to graduate from art school, who I can relate to in many ways (funny enough he reminds me a bit of myself when I was younger). He's a really talented artist and has a lot of potential, so when my ex (when we were together) said he was looking for internships and such for the summer, I offered to refer him to some work colleagues and other people in my network.

Prior to the breakup, I sent out his portfolio around, however now (about three weeks post breakup) many of my contacts and friend of friends are quite interested and want to interview him. On top of this, I got free passes to a couple of conferences where he'd be able to really network and have career opportunities.

Now I'm torn on what to do, right now I'm no contact with my ex and don't want to think about getting back together or even really talk to her (another story for another time), but I really do like her little brother and want to help him out in whatever way I can. I promised to him that I'd help, and I still want to.

I can contact him directly without the ex and I feel this isn't about her at all (if she makes this about her then it says more about her than me), and I want to see things through. He really could be something and at the very least I want to finalize the contacts/set up the interviews and give him the conference passes. Whether or not I continue to help him out long term is another matter and it'd depend on what happens now.

Tl;dr: Promised ex's younger brother I'd help him out with finding an internship prior to breakup. My contacts are really interested in interviewing him and I want to at least finish this promise. What should I do?

Submitted February 01, 2019 at 12:53PM by datnetworkguy http://bit.ly/2t25HlT