My husband and I have been together several years, and have been married one. At the beginning of our relationship he had shown signs of being incredibly insecure, to the point of putting me down so that I wouldn't feel confident in myself. He got better for quite a while, to the point where I thought he'd completely changed. Recently, his insecurities are back full-force. We sometimes have in-depth talks under the influence of alcohol because it makes it easier for him to speak his mind (he's not a quiet guy by any means, he loves to talk for hours on end). During one of our most recent ones, he talked about rubbernecking and how he doesn't understand why women get so upset about it, that if a guy sees a big ass or a gorgeous woman he's going to look and his significant other doesn't need to be upset about it. However, he's also paranoid about other men looking at me. I'm by no means super attractive. I dress modestly because I have large breasts and a bit of a wagon, and work at a facility where the dress code is very professional (i.e., no tight clothes, no cleavage showing, stockings must be worn under skirts, etc). When we go out together, I'm almost always wearing a very baggy sweater. Regardless, men still look at me in the same fashion that my husband looks at other women and it seemingly makes his blood boil. He constantly talks me out of going to the gym, despite the fact that I wear baggy sweats and a huge t-shirt when I go, and yoga pants are practically banned. I try to reassure him that he has my heart, that I don't care about the other men and I don't get off on men looking at me (I'm a very shy person so it genuinely makes me uncomfortable). I've never cheated on him or gave him reason to think that I was cheating. What else can I say to quell his insecurities?
TL;DR: My husband has relapsed into being painfully insecure and nothing I say or do seems to help.
Submitted February 01, 2019 at 09:40AM by kushmilf420 http://bit.ly/2RxdrWW
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