Married two years, together for seven. The pandemic has led to us both having some individual difficulties, and therefore couples difficulties as well. I've delved more into my hobbies (yay) but have also turned to food a lot more and have gained a little weight (nay). Husband has been socializing with friends (yay) but by playing video games for hours several days a week (nay). As a couple, we've found a little more joy in doing Sunday crosswords and making the occasional meal together, but we also rarely have sex and just kind of stay on separate couches in separate rooms doing our own thing.
So I get home from work yesterday, make dinner, and husband reminds me that tonight is one of his gaming nights with friends. He'll be busy from 6 pm into the wee hours, long after I've gone to bed. Fine, whatever, I'll amuse myself.
A couple hours later he comes out of his room to use the bathroom and he passes by me. I'm reading a book and eating a piece of cake. He says "didn't we just have dinner?" I can see where this is going and I'm irked. I say "a couple hours ago, I wanted dessert." He says "weren't you just concerned about gaining weight a couple days ago?" I'm so annoyed at this point. I tell him "and you're concerned about staying up all night playing video games, so what's your point?"
He went on his way and we haven't really talked since. He went to bed at 3:30 that night (his moving around woke me up) and I left at 7 for work. I feel like we were both crabby so maybe nothing to discuss, but I also know there's a lot under the surface and we should probably address it. I don't even know where to start here. How do we solve the bickering issue and our overall lack of connection?
tl;dr: husband and I have been bickering lately due to pandemic doldrums. Want to put a stop to it.
Submitted February 19, 2021 at 06:39AM by Pale_Associate6630 https://ift.tt/37xdWeF
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